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Please help respond to any two discussion post. Each post should be over 150 words. Cannot reply to professors comment. My comment is the last one at the bottom of the last page. discussion___response_needed.docx Unformatted Attachment Preview • Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia Doris Delucia MondayMay 18 at 8:52am Manage Discussion Entry Dr Kc and Class: The new concept of self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves and others under the basic understanding we are all human and experience the same suffering and personal inadequacy (Reichel, 2015). It promotes “mindfulness” which is just fundamentally being and becoming more self-aware and aware of your immediate and current surroundings and feelings. By doing this, one would be more open to understanding not just our own feelings self-worth (or lack thereof), but those feelings of others that we encounter. It is quite an interesting premise. Nathanial Branden’s concept of self-esteem stems from the idea that if we value and respect ourselves, we would be more apt to treat others with “respect, goodwill, and fairness, since we do not tend to perceive them as a threat” (Reece & Reece, 2017, p. 79). And although that seems to make sense, the trouble is that self-esteem can be prone to artificial inflation by those others (such as parents, teachers, etc.) when it is not really merited. With self-compassion, we would acknowledge negative feelings that can come about during difficult times, but without the self-judgment that can normally occur when our self-esteem takes a hit, and then move on. One of my favorite movie quotes comes from Disney’s live-action Cinderalla, which is “Have Courage and Be Kind.” Such a simple-sounding concept, but much easier said than done. It is funny that we should be studying this now since, in my children’s school district, today marks the very first “Mindful Monday”, which will occur for the next few Mondays until the end of the school year. The day is full of activities that will encourage the children to take stock of themselves and others, as well as what is going on in the world around them, and to consider how they are feeling and what kind of “energy” they are putting out. This self-awareness is huge as it will lead them to be able to determine where their pitfalls are when it comes to their feelings of inadequacy and what hurts or angers them most, and, most importantly, it will allow them to see perhaps how their words or actions could make someone else feel or act. At the end of the day, they submit a reflection on what they learned through the day’s activities. I am interested to see what my children will come away with after today. Doris Works cited Reece, B., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal and Organizational Applications, 13th Edition. Boston: Cengage Learning. Reichel, J. (2015, September 22). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved SelfEsteem? Retrieved from The Epoch Times: https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-selfcompassion-the-new-and-improved-self- esteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https\%3A\%2F\%2Fwww.google.co m\%2F (Links to an external site.) WC=400 ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez Professor Martinez MondayMay 18 at 2:50pm Manage Discussion Entry Good morning Doris~ Within your response this week your opening thoughts note that the new concept of self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves and others under the basic understanding we are all human and experience the same suffering and personal inadequacy (Reichel, 2015), in many ways difficult for some people to embrace. Mindfulness is a form of practice that embraces this notion and provides ways for us to embrace these thoughts as practicing mindfulness involves becoming more aware of ourselves and in doing so, we then expand our ability and capacity to be mindfully more aware others. The thought is that where we might show kindness and compassion to others we learn to do the same for ourselves. In a way, Nathaniel Brandens position is that if we are able to extend kindness and compassion to ourselves, be more accepting of ourselves, then ultimately we would be able to do the same to/for others: be kind to ourselves/be kind to others. Selfcompassion, as you have noted, is not as superficial as we recognize and accept negative feelings or suffering and that we do not minimize these feelings as they are valid. What a great Disney quote to include int his weeks work: Have Courage and Be Kind.” ReplyReply to Comment ▪ Collapse SubdiscussionEstefany Gutierrez Estefany Gutierrez ThursdayMay 21 at 7:03pm Manage Discussion Entry Good evening Professor. I left out the part about self-compassion. Like you mentioned It is said that if we have self-compassion for ourselves we will for others. The more self-compassion we have for ourselves the happier we will be . We will learn to be in peace not only with our self but with others , at our job, or any interaction we encounter in our daily life’s. Self-compassion reflects strength. I was looking forward to this chapter and i must say I learned much from it and think differently about myself. ReplyReply to Comment ▪ Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia Doris Delucia YesterdayMay 22 at 6:22am Manage Discussion Entry Dr. Kc, I can see how the concept of self-compassion could encourage others to be more understanding toward themselves and others around them and am excited to see its implementation in the school system. Kids need to grow up realizing that success comes about after giving it your best attempt and that failure is a normal part of life and success. I also like the idea that they can be more sympathetic to others as I feel this notion is lacking these days, particularly in todays youth with bullying being on the rise. I can only hope that having these children learn to be more compassionate to themselves and others would make bullying a thing of the past or at least diminish in the number of occurrences. Doris Word Count = 128 ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionMichelle Gil Michelle Gil 1:05amMay 23 at 1:05am Manage Discussion Entry Hello Doris, I love that your childrens school is incorporating energy into their curriculum. I am a high believer in energy, I am always looking at the positive of things and believe in the law of attractions. Once one speaks to the universe in the form of having it already, whatever it is that you speak of will come to you. I believe that ones energy can be read through body language, voice, eyes, and activity so being able to learn about energy at a young age is amazing. ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman Fahad Rehman 6:24amMay 23 at 6:24am Manage Discussion Entry Hello Doris, I enjoyed reading your post. Your thoughts on self-compassion have a positive vibe. Its important for us humans to be kind to ourselves. Mindfulness is indeed a great way to promote this. I would like to add that understanding our self worth not only benefits us but also society as a whole. It takes human relations of trust, understanding, and forgiveness to a whole new dimension. I agree with the fact that teaching theses ideologies to children would be a great idea. It would be a great realization for the youth that failures happen at every instance of life and its okay to fail in at things in life. ReplyReply to Comment • Collapse SubdiscussionPrecious Floyd Precious Floyd TuesdayMay 19 at 4:25am Manage Discussion Entry Hello Class and Professor, While reading Chapter 4, and the article Is Self-Compassion the New & Improved Self-Esteem, I feel that Self-Compassion can be the new Self-Esteem. Having SelfRespect means that you respect others, and respecting others is always a good thing. Getting high self-esteem, Brandon said the first thing to do is to start living consciously. Nathaniel Branden says living consciously is the highest manifestation of life—the basic tool of survival. If we don’t bring an appropriate level of consciousness to our life, the penalty is a diminished sense of self-efficacy and self-respect. One barrier to living consciously is the evasion of facts that make us uncomfortable. Branden says that to live consciously means to seek awareness of everything that bears on our actions, purposes, values, and goals (Reece, 2016 Pg 85). Having compassion for others is a great thing. You are living the saying Do on to others as others do on to you. If a person can be compassionate to others, then they will have Self-Compassion. Just like Branden mentioned how to work on having self-esteem, a person have to start with living consciously, thats what the Buddhist Philosophy suggest. This is just done by meditating, which helps a person see things more clearly. When people were able to be compassionate and understanding toward themselves, they were more likely to show social connectedness, personal responsibility, motivation to change, and emotional resilience. It was also linked to life satisfaction, wisdom, happiness, optimism, and curiosity (Reichel, 2015). “Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the stormy seas of endless positive and negative self-judgement, so that we can finally stop asking, ‘Am I as good as they are? Am I good enough?” (Neff, 2011). Understanding things will open up the eyes. You can see what is needed to become a person of your own identity. If its Meditating, Praying or following Brandons examples on how to gain high self-esteem. I agree that some of this generation of young adults and teens do feel privileged. Narcissism levels are up, and several social surveys say Millennials have more entitlement and unrealistic expectations than previous generations (Reichel, 2015). This is because the last generation was raised differently. Something always said to myself. This generation do not have respect nowadays. You see it all the time, but because they have no respect for others, this means they have no respect for themselves. This is why there is no compassion. And the majority of the time, most of the people who dont have compassion, normally are hurting in the inside. I agree with Neff, “Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the stormy seas of endless positive and negative self-judgement, so that we can finally stop asking, ‘Am I as good as they are? Am I good enough?” (Neff, 2011). If Narcissist people look into what they are doing and accept it, they can become one with themselves and start treating people and situations differently. ~Word Count 497 References: Reece, B., Reece, M. Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal And Organizational Applications. [VitalSource Bookshelf]. Retrieved from https://online.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781337003162/ (Links to an external site.) Justina Reichel, The Epoch Times, Article Link ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez Professor Martinez TuesdayMay 19 at 9:42am Manage Discussion Entry Good morning Precious~ Within your response you make reference to having read the article Is SelfCompassion the New & Improved Self-Esteem? and note that it is possible that self-compassion might be the new self-esteem. According to Brandon the first step to take in order to develop a high sense of selfesteem is to start living consciously. In order to do so, one must choose to start living mindfully, in other words, living a mindful life with intention. Some people have great difficulty grasping this concept so it helps to break it down in a manner that people can understand. To live with intention requires being mindful, another word for this could be pay attention. When we pay attention to what we do, how we do it, and why we do things, we are starting to be mindful of our actions. Brandens Six Pillars provide guidelines to help to live a life mindfully or with intention and how this approach to life has a direct impact on strengthing ones selfesteem through the practice of mindfulness which in turn makes it possible to be compassionate to others: 1. Living consciously 2. Self-acceptance 3. Self-responsibility 4. Self-assertiveness 5. Living purposefully 6. Personal integrity ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionEstefany Gutierrez Estefany Gutierrez ThursdayMay 21 at 7:08pm Manage Discussion Entry Good afternoon Precious Great post ! , very well explained . I You mentioned how today’s generation have no respect for others . Some are overly full of them selves and arrogant. Many of the millennials look for approval from others , they are not capable of making their own decisions and take responsibility for their acts. Today, millennials tend to stick to what society thinks is right. It’s all based of media and idolize the wrong people. ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionMichelle Gil Michelle Gil 1:09amMay 23 at 1:09am Manage Discussion Entry Hello precious, Very amazing post and so informative. I agree with you when you state Do on to others as others do on to you., I am a high believer in that as well because if you are compassionate towards your self you will be compassionate towards others. Karma is a real thing and it will come right back around, so why not be nice and understanding to others? ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman Fahad Rehman 6:34amMay 23 at 6:34am Manage Discussion Entry Hello Precious, Very well-written post. I couldnt agree more on what Nathaniel Branden said regarding consciousness as the basic tool of survival. We often curse ourselves for our inefficiency at doing things and this sow the seeds of self-doubt which eventually germinates and has an adverse impact on our actions, relations in life. I agree with the fact that the younger generation has too many expectations in life. The truth is that reality hits them hard and they end up being too harsh on themselves. Being kind to ourselves is something that I strongly promote. Success and failures are only the outcomes of a situation. ReplyReply to Comment • Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman Fahad Rehman TuesdayMay 19 at 11:30am Manage Discussion Entry Self-esteem is essential for every individual to progress in life and it is necessary to tackle the challenges that come along. Branden highlighted the importance of selfesteem as a step for not only avoiding numerous problems, but also behaviors and attitudes that can enhance life choices and actions. However, while self-esteem was necessary, the method of building it exposed everyone involved to one small flaw of narcissism. While the end product was meant to be positive, the approach utilized building a personality that was dependent on external validation, and this was harming the consistency of esteem. This is where the new concept of building selfcompassion, as discussed by Neff, comes in as an updated version of self-esteem. The concept of self-compassion ensures no buildup of narcissism and instead helps one combat feeling low and lack of confidence in a more constructive manner. Instead of just damaging the belief system with the idea that nothing bad can happen to you, self-compassion helps one deal with their limitations more kindly. It not only restores confidence and builds self-esteem but also does not need any external validation to hold on to the attained confidence. Words: 187 ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman Fahad Rehman TuesdayMay 19 at 11:32am Manage Discussion Entry Correct words: 191 References Reece, B., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal and Organizational Applications, 13th ed. Boston: Cengage Learning. Reichel, J. (2015). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved Self-Esteem?. The Epoch Times. Retrieved from https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-self-compassionthe-new-and-improved-selfesteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https\%3A\%2F\%2Fwww.google.co m\%2F ReplyReply to Comment ▪ Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez Professor Martinez TuesdayMay 19 at 6:19pm Manage Discussion Entry Got it~ ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez Professor Martinez TuesdayMay 19 at 6:19pm Manage Discussion Entry Good evening Fahad~ Within your response, you note that it seems that positive self-esteem is essential for anyone to be able to progress in life and face and tackle the challenges that can occur. As you have noted in addition to the work that Branden has done with his Six Pillars, Neff also contributed to the field with an emphasis on building a sense of self-compassion which is a new version of self-esteem. Self-compassion is essential for everyone and that being said it is often a difficult concept to embrace. Originally self-esteem almost required a focus on the self and not necessarily in a positive way, it was at the cost of not being aware of others. Under these circumstances, it is very difficult to be aware of others. A mindful approach to our everyday actions helps us to focus on the moment and begin to create a sense of acceptance of our selves and at the same time develop a sense of compassion towards our selves, in the same manner, that we would be kind or compassionate to others. Self-compassion allows us to be kinder to ourselves and accepting of any shortcomings that we might have and in doing so we are then able to be kind and compassionate to others. ReplyReply to Comment o Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia Doris Delucia YesterdayMay 22 at 5:54am Manage Discussion Entry Hi Fahad, I agree that the strategy of building self-esteem in schools as it was implemented seemed to have done more harm than good. As you mentioned, it built a validation system that largely relied on the validation from others (i.e. peers, parents, teachers). The problem with this was that constant affirmation was needed for their self-worth to be intact and any hint of failure or defeat would be potentially crushing. To this end, self-compassion will allow children to grow up with the knowledge that failures are expected and necessary in life and on the road to success. They will also be able to appreciate all their achievements better since the subsequent rewards and accolades will be well-earned. Excellent post! Doris ReplyReply to Comment ▪ Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia Doris Delucia YesterdayMay 22 at 5:56am Manage Discussion Entry word count = 120 ReplyReply to Comment • Collapse SubdiscussionOctavia Torbert Octavia Torbert WednesdayMay 20 at 4:29am Manage Discussion Entry Hello Professor and Class, The topic this week reminded me of a saying I learned a long time ago when I was a young girl. It stated you can tell a girl she is beautiful a 100 times and you can call her ugly 1 time and that 1 ugly time will whip away all of the beautiful comments sh ever received. That is where self-esteem comes into play. We rely a lot on other peoples judgments of us to dictate how we feel about our selves. In the new concept of self-esteem, it wants us to have less self-compassion for ourselves and silence the self-criticism more. Self-compassion is looked at as having self-pity and no wants to pity themselves. Which I can completely understand because we can be our own worst enemy. We get so wrapped in all of the negative things that are in our heads that we forget to look at all of our positives. After one mistake, we are so quick to give in to all of the bad things that have ever been said about us. That is where Nathaniel Brandens idea comes into play. With Nathaniel Brandens idea, he believes that self-efficacy combined with self-respect builds up your selfesteem. Self-efficacy is the confidence in yourself to achieve certain tasks and goals you have set for yourself and self-respect meaning the way you think and feel about yourself. Both of these are very important to build ones self-esteem because if you dont think highly of yourself no one else will. Then you have to think so highly of your self that you will not allow anyone to take that from you. Overall, I thin ... Purchase answer to see full attachment